Astonishing things that make your kids more prone to bullying

Bullies are a reality. Living a life without encountering a few along the way is almost impossible. What is important is to teach kids to stand up for themselves or immediately ask for help from someone they trust, without hesitation. While some kids are naturally defensive and do a good job of facing bullies, some others have a hard time.

Although a perceived social isolation or weakness puts kids at a higher risk of being bullied, did you know there are a lot of other things too that make your kid more prone to bullying than others?

Here are they:

  • Being unusually popular, can cause kids to fall victim to bullying. It leads to jealousy and feelings of hatred among insecure people who resort to cheap tactics to derive sadistic pleasure.
  • Spending a lot of time in front of TV and mobile screens too can invite more trouble. Studies reveal that kids who indulge in more than 2 hours of screen time a day, risk lowering their emotional intelligence leading to social problems down the line. Needless to say, they become easy targets.
  • Kids who have over protective parents are also at an increased risk of childhood bullying. Over-fussy parents often fail to give their children, the independence they need to develop their social skill and that leads to them becoming soft targets for bullies.
  • Kids who have siblings far older than them are also more susceptible to bullying. They spend their childhood being dominated by their older siblings, and become naturally submissive. This makes them more vulnerable to evils such a bullying.

Children who fall victims to bullying often suffer depression and suicidal feelings. If parents don’t pay careful attention to the social evil, chances are they will regret. So keep a watchful eye and teach your kids to fight back before it’s too late.

Pregnancy fears that you must let go

Pregnancy is a wonderful time but these days, it is riddled with too much fear. News and rumors alike have managed to scare us out of our wits.

Calm down. It is not so bad. You can still enjoy your pregnancy instead of living in fear. Here are things that you shouldn’t let affect you at all:

  1. Zika virus: This virus has terrified our very souls but did you know that there isn’t one case of Zika in the United States? That’s right. Not even one has been found to be acquired within USA. Plus, scientists have said that they aren’t even sure that there’s a link between the disease and pregnancy. So, yeah, stop worrying about it.
  2. Placental abruption: Yes, placental abruption is very serious but you must know it is also very rare! It is seen in less than 1% pregnancies across the world!
  3. Preeclampsia: This problem has gotten a lot of traction in the past few months thanks to celebrities speaking up about it but people, people, it is rare! Only around 5% women in the USA are affected by it. Thus, unless you see symptoms or the doctors warns you about it, you shouldn’t worry.

These and many others are common fears that we face during pregnancy. Go easy on yourself. Focus on your baby and savor the moments of pregnancy!

A few early signs of autism

The incidences of autism are on the rise and every parent is worried. They wonder if their child has autism. How to know if they do? What to do?

Understanding the early stages and signs of autism will help you a great deal. Here are a few of them:

  1. He is one-year-old and hasn’t started babbling yet
  2. He is 16-months-old and hasn’t spoken a word yet
  3. Stereotyped movements
  4. Being overly attached to one particular object or toy
  5. Frustration when daily routine is disturbed
  6. Poor eye contact

If you notice any of these or related signs in your child, you should talk to the doctor and clear all your doubts.

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How to ease a colicky baby

Colic is difficult to deal with, both for the baby and parent. Children experience pain in the gut and generally spend long hours constantly crying. Apart from making the baby tired and restless, it drains the parent of energy.

If your baby experiences colic often, here’s what you should do:

  • Don’t feed your baby too much or too fast, because it causes intestinal gas to increase leading to breakdown of excessive lactose. A baby’s tummy is just her fit sized. So be wise when setting a limit to how much she can have at one go.
  • When the baby is experiencing colic pain, sit cross legged and lay the baby stomach down on your lap, so that his abdomen gets pressed on your knees. This will help release the gas formation.
  • Alternatively lay the baby on the bed stomach up and gently curl his knees to press his abdomen. Keep bouncing the knees gently but firmly on the abdomen. This is an ancient Indian yoga technique to release gas from the body.
  • You can also try tummy rolls. You do this by laying the baby tummy down on a large ball and gently rolling in a circular motion.
  • Take a hot water bottle and enclose it in a thick cloth. Place the enclosed bag on the tummy and press lightly till the baby starts to feel better.
  • Indulge in a warm bath with your baby. It will not only soothe her, but relax you too.

There! We hope you have to spend lesser sleepless nights over a crying baby and more in pure adulation.

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How to tame an aggressive wild child

Kids sometimes use aggression to express themselves, when they are overwhelmed with an emotion be it anger, fear, or insecurity. But if this behaviour goes a little out of hand, it can be both annoying and worrisome to the parents. Although a child does not become wild deliberately (well almost), there are a few ways you can control their aggression, to a certain extent.

Here’s what you should do:

  • Never react strongly, when a child is throwing a tantrum. Instead, wait for him to calm down and then ask him what exactly he is feeling. Often kids don’t recognise what they are feeling until they think it out. So asking them directly if they are angry, sad, or frightened, is a good idea.
  • Kids are not mindful of what effect, their behaviour causes on other people. Teach them to empathise. Ask them how they’d feel, if someone behaved the same way with them. This will make them realise that they displease, prompting them, to attempt to change their behaviour.
  • Who said love cannot be taught. Teach your kids, that there is a non-violent way of expressing everything. Role play situations, and show your kids, alternative behaviour, to aggression.
  • Learn to give appreciation, when your kids behave well. Tell them they make you proud when they do things a particular way. Praising them will reinforce positive behaviour like no other.
  • Teach them little tricks that they can use, to diffuse their anger. Suggest deep breathing, counting in the mind, or having water, when in a fit of rage. This will help them gain control over their anger.
  • Limit your child’s exposure to movies and games, which depict violence in any form, because children love imitating.
  • Don’t ever hit your kids. If you smack them when angry, they will learn to strike when they are angry too. Children learn by watching, not listening.

Remember to give them time and space. If you rush into things too soon, you might not see the results at all. Also know, that if your kid’s behaviour is getting worse every day, or is causing harm to family or self, take him to a child psychologist. She will be able to gauge the exact reason, and propose methods to control the aggression.

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Your kids are watching what you do

If there is one thing you learn after you become a seasoned parent, it is that you are being watched intently every single day. Every word you speak is being heard and absorbed and every decision you make or every step you take is observed. Your child is taking cues from you and that is a huge responsibility.

If you want your children to turn out good, make sure you are good enough for them to emulate you. Here are a few behaviors that your kids will learn from you.

  1. Children are hugely impacted by the way you treat their mother/father. Treat your spouse with respect, and dignity and they will do the same to you.DO NOT be belligerent or degrading. EVER.
  1. Learn to spend your money wisely. Children will copy your lack of responsibility. If you are frivolous with your money, expect your children to be so too. Therefore stick to a budget and save and plan for your future.
  1. If you use people for your gain, belittle people who are at your service or mistreat people, so will your children. You sure don’t want them to devalue people. Be compassionate and respectful.
  1. The integrity you display and the depth of your character goes a long way in determining how your kids will choose to live. Children know when you cheat, know when you lie and know when you make unfair accusations. They are taking notes mentally. Make sure they are good.
  1. Be disciplined. No two ways about that. If you over eat, spend recklessly, drink too much, make excuses for poor choices or have erratic schedules, so will your children!

Raise children to be healthy, productive and with a strong character and integrity. Be proactive and move that direction with your own behavior.

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Reasons Why Your Kids Should Play Chess

For the player, chess is an amazing game. For the watcher, chess is intriguing and may be even boring.

If you have never played chess, you won’t realize how much it can help with various aspects of your life. We highly recommend that you encourage your kids to play chess whether or not you have ever played. Experts give you reasons:

  1. Brain power boost: When kids play chess, dendrites grow exponentially. These are parts of the nervous system and when they grow, brain power increases automatically.
  2. Life skills: Through chess, kids develop a number of life skills including decision-making skills, synthetic skills, and analytical skills. These skills are very important.
  3. Discipline: Chess is an asset because it teaches discipline. Children who play chess plan ahead and think about every move they make. For example, there won’t be fuss about clothing for school every morning. They’ll plan beforehand.
  4. Higher order thinking: HOTS or Higher Order Thinking Skills have become a necessity for children and chess helps with that. HOTS include analysis and critical thinking to come up with the answer. Needless to say, kids need to learn lower order skills first. Chess helps!

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4 Reasons Why Spanking Your Kids Is Wrong

Spanking? It is an absolute no for kids!

Seriously, there are many better ways of teaching your kids how to behave and telling them that they are wrong. Spanking is not acceptable and we’ll tell you why:

  1. It promotes violence: When you spank, you create an impression that things can get better through violence. It encourages violence as a solution.
  2. It has the potential to traumatize: You can instill so much fear in your kids that they can have nervous breakdowns at the slightest mistake. You want your kids to be open with you, not break down and blank out.
  3. It does not help: Believe it or not, spanking does NOT help. It does not teach anything good, either.
  4. Spanking shows that you failed as a parent: It may be harsh but if you are resorting to spanking to discipline your child, you are doing it wrong.

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Tips For Going Back To Work

So you had your baby. Congratulations!

Right from the time you were pregnant to the time of birth you lived in your own world of happiness, delight, and nervousness. After the birth you spent lots of time with your little one, taking care of her.

Suddenly, it seems like you have been pulled back to the harsh reality because now you have to go back to work. Leaving your baby behind can be very, very painful but you have no choice. The only thing you can do is to ensure that this transition is easy not just for you but also for your little one.

  1. Hire a baby sitter: You should be able to trust your baby sitter. Otherwise things won’t work out. For that, start your hunt beforehand and carefully assess all the applicants so that you find someone reliable. Talk to them personally and reach out to references as well.
  2. Work remotely once or twice a week. These days many companies are open to telecommuting and are allowing employees to work from home every now and then. Talk to your boss and see if he/she allows it at least once a week.
  3. Try not worrying too much. We know it will be hard but the more you think of her, the more you will miss her. You also won’t be able to concentrate on your work.
  4. Talk to your mommy friends. New mothers will be able to provide you with the required support and help during this time. They will also be able to share tips and advice about your problem.

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Baby Name Inspirations from Candle Scents

Looking for inspiration to name your baby?

Baby Name Inspirations from Candle Scents

It is actually not very difficult to come up with names! Here’s an idea – why not come up with a sweet, mesmerizing name for your little one? Think about candle scents here and you’ll feel yourself smiling already. There are a few candle scents that make you feel at ease immediately. You could name your baby accordingly!

If you are frustrated looking for the perfect name for your infant, it time to think about candle scents. There are names for boys, there are names for girls, and there are a few unisex names as well! You can choose any of them. Listed below are a few examples for you:

  1. Amber
  2. Blossom
  3. Cedar
  4. Lilac
  5. Emerald
  6. Iris
  7. Orchid
  8. North
  9. Sage
  10. Rainbow
  11. Violet
  12. Lavender
  13. Jasmine
  14. Hazel
  15. Rain

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