What your Guy Wants

You are getting ready for your first date with this handsome guy and you are freaking out – a scene too familiar? Yeah, we all have our own doubts and concerns and worries. Will he like this? Will he like that? Does he want me to wear this? Oh! Oh! OH the questions!! Here are a few answers FINALLY!

• This is your first date. He’d want to know you better. Don’t indulge completely in the sad story of your life. Instead, be smart and add some humor. Add some sarcasm too and he’ll like it. Show that you are witty and intelligent and surely not dumb and boring.

• If you like him, touch him subtly. No groping! Just lean and touch while you talk, place a hand on his knee and that is enough. Let your body language speak. Let it be the other way round too. If you aren’t interested, let your body language mediate that too. But don’t be too harsh.

• Wear red. Men love that color and it also symbolizes romance and love. No, don’t go ALL red. Just add a red accessory or a purse and that is enough.

• Heavy perfume is the biggest turn off. Stay light and smell great. Lavender is one scent boys dig.

Getting your Stuff back After a Break-up

Did you just suffer a break-up? Oh, the blues! There are things even after a break-up that will taunt you for a while. One is the custody battle of your things. It is never easy, really. But surely there are things and possessions that you’d want back. It is not wrong to want your things back however petty they might be. They are yours and if you’d like to have them back, you should.
Here are some tips for you:

• If you have only been on three dates or so and you broke up, don’t go seeing him again just because you want your favourite music CD back. You could simply send him a very cute e-mail and convey that he could mail it to you or you could pick it up from the front desk of his apartment. If he insists on meeting, meet at a place like the reception of your office or his.

• Mutual break-up after dating for a few months: He was fine but it just didn’t click. You broke up mutually and there are no hard feelings. Don’t just sit there, give him a call! Tell him it might seem very lame but you really loved your book/CD/hoodie/whatever and you want it back. Keep it light and friendly. You might feel uncomfortable when you meet him but once you get over with it, you’ll feel better.

• You guys dated and he dumped you: Sure you cried buckets when he did that to you. You were devastated and it felt like your life was tumbling down like a pile of cards. Whatever it may be, there is a sole way of dealing with this. Unless it is something absolutely important, don’t even bother taking your stuff back. You might think that meeting you or seeing you will change his mind. It won’t. Just get something better for yourself but avoid asking anything back.

• Dated for years but the sun has set on your relationship now: It is difficult to divide stuff in a long term relationship. Don’t call him immediately. Wait a month or so and call him. You will have moved on at least a tad by then. You can go over to his place or vice versa. It is okay.

Decode those Texts and Know What he Really Means

Texts can’t convey the tone of a person and actually could lead to disastrous misunderstanding. One text misinterpreted can ruin your day and your sleep at night. Hence it is important to understand what he actually means through his texts. You need to be able to decode the confusing texts your guy sends to be safe and secure.

Here are a few examples:

“I’ll be late. Call you later.” – Yeah, a to-the-point text like this can rile you up because you can’t accept anything without details. Even after receiving the text though, if you try continuously to talk to him you will get an obligatory and forced reply. Don’t create awful scenarios in your head and think he is cheating on you. He is mostly with his friends, chilling out or something and does not have the time to type out something long. You chill out too and let him reach you later on.

“Sure” – One words are very irritating but to a man, they are fine. You ask him something extremely important and he replies with a single word – oh the agony! If there are no punctuations or smileys, don’t take for granted that he doesn’t care or isn’t interested. Don’t even conclude that he is being sarcastic. He just means he agrees and that’s that.

“I wish you were here” – You could melt with that, couldn’t you?! Well yes. He misses you a lot and he thinks about you too. When you are apart, like he is one a business trip, he is most likely missing spending a romantic night with you. Call him up and cuddle a while so he feels better.

Celebrating your Love for him

We all want to add spice to our relationship and make it extremely desirable. You surely want to keep letting him know that you love him a lot and will always do. I always want to celebrate my marriage and the fact that I have the best husband in the world. I therefore keep doing or saying little some things that make him feel special and thoroughly cared for. Here are a few tips for you to celebrate your marriage:

• A simple ‘I Love You’ can mean the world to him. Tell him you love him. The words wean magic.
• Talk and dream about your future together.
• Give him gifts for no reason and say ‘just because I love you!’
• Toast each other
• Call him out of nowhere and say, “I am thinking about you.”
• Leave notes for him with his lunch
• Take loads of pictures together!
• Plant a tree together.
• Check on your kid as he sleeps – TOGETHER!
• Meet some place like a date, get dressed up and look beautiful just for him.
• Get him some flowers.
• Walk hand in hand

There are so many such things that you could do to make him feel special and celebrate your togetherness. Do them and celebrate love!

Forgiving him After an Affair

An affair spells out destruction of trust, of feelings and of the whole relationship. An affair can indeed hurt everything you had and shared with your partner. Despite that, if you are willing to stick with him there are a few things you have to be thoughtful about. To start off with, you need to forgive him completely. Here are a few tips that could help you move forward despite the affair:

• You have to be able to forgive your partner truly. Every affair is a slap on trust and trust is broken completely. In order to forgive him, there is one thing you require: sorrow. Your partner must be miserable that he cheated. He must be repenting his mistake and he needs to share openly with you – the person who has been affected the most.

• Empathy is also very important and it is intertwined with forgiveness. Unless you feel empathetic and understand that your partner is repenting, you won’t be able to forgive him. Hear him out and give him a chance. You may have also made a mistake in the past. He forgave you, right? Why can’t you do the same? Agreed that this is not the same but just like you repented back then, he is right now. Be gentle on him and on yourself.

• You need to believe him first. You need to know and realize that he is taking responsibility for his actions, he is in remorse, he has learned from his mistakes, he is willing to give you all the time in the world to understand and accept his apology and that you are special to him.

Just believe in the points mentioned through his actions and his words and build your relationship around it.

Ways to Express your Love for Him

What is your way of expressing love? It is not always gifts that do the magic. You need to think beyond in order to personalize your ways of showing him you love him. Here are a few ways for you:

• Give him a back rub out of nowhere. Slow, gentle and loving – he’d love it!

• Breakfast in bed – oh, he’d love it.

• Cook him the meal he loves the most – the way to his heart is through his stomach!

• Let him have the remote that night.

• Texting will take you a long way. Send him loving and suggestive texts all day and welcome him home in sexy lingerie.

• Pack him goodies with his lunch – love notes can be the goodies!

• Get creative and thoughtful and make him a scrapbook with your pictures.

• Organize a game tournament for him and his buddies.

Be Happy, Make your Relationship Work After Birth

Babies are cute, amazing, lovable and everything else but again, they are also very exhausting. Actually, it has been estimated that one parent in every six families is depressed in the first few months itself.

It is essential to be very happy that you are now a parent but it can be very difficult because your baby will keep you on your toes all the time. You will be tired and stressed out and yet you will have to work relentlessly in different patterns each day. All this contributes to unhappiness.

Out of 5 couples, only one says that the relationship grows stronger after child birth. This explains why most parents separate before their child hits the age of 16. Also, it has been noted that couple with children are the ones that split more often. Very sadly, one in three children who live with both their parents doesn’t get close to their fathers.

Hence, it is important to try and stay as happy as possible and work together to make your relationship work. Here are a few tips that might help –

• Talk and listen at the same time.

• Share the work you have to do.

• Take time out for each other.

• Have a good sex life.

• Be very careful and sensible with money.

• Get help as soon as you sense trouble instead of waiting for things to completely go out of hand.

Sex Can Affect your Heart

Here’s something that’ll baffle your lovey-dovey time for you nice and hard. A recent study reveals what 14 different studies came up with too. All these studies speak the same. Sex can have a major impact on your heart and mind you, I am not talking love here.

The recent study was conducted at the Tufts University and it revealed that if a person puts the body through sudden physical activity, it has a negative effect on the heart. Physical activity of course includes having sex.

If you don’t exercise on a regular basis but have sex suddenly out of nowhere, it could be disastrous. Thus, you must either have sex often or exercise regularly. If you don’t, you could even get a heart attack in the next hour of having sex.

The researcher said, “If you take 1,000 people, each individual session of physical or sexual activity per week can be associated with an increase of 1 to 2 cases of heart attack or sudden cardiac death per year.”

But more importantly, exercise is very important for good heart health. Regular exercise can decrease the risk by 45%. So, be regular and enjoy a healthy life!

Bieber and Gomez Very Much Together

Oh yes, rumors have been doing the rounds that the sexy teenage couple Selena Gomez and Justin Bieber have broken up.

However, they crushed all rumors by proving otherwise. They showed they were still very much together in the 2011 Teen Choice Awards where they sat together in the front row.

They may have come separately but that didn’t make a difference because they were seen together since Gomez gave a sizzling performance with her band.

There were talks that Gomez had a problem with Bieber’s older friends. However, they walked out of the amphitheater together hand in hand and kissed a hearty goodbye. They then left in their own respective cars.

Kingston also negated the rumors saying that they are “all rumors. Selena’s my friend. We’re all friends.”

How to Conceive a Girl

Do you want to have a baby girl? Do you already have 3 sons and now, you really want to gift them a sister? Well, in contrast to the usual beliefs that we can’t control the sex of the unborn child, there are ways to actually increase the chances. You can’t be hundred percent sure of course. But the chances of having a girl child will significantly increase if you follow a few steps while conceiving. Here are a few –

• The most important and significant way is to time your intercourse many days before ovulation. You can buy ovulation strips in order to be sure about your ovulation dates.

• When you intercourse, make sure you don’t have an orgasm. Scientifically, an orgasm actually increases the alkaline pH of the vagina. Alkaline pH is ideal for the survival of the male sperm.

• Acidic conditions are ideal for the survival of the female sperm and hence, make sure you eat foods that are rich in calcium and magnesium. It will help you a lot.

• Shallow penetration is ideal if you want a girl child. This is because the vaginal entrance is acidic. If the sperm is delivered there, the male units don’t survive and only the female ones go deeper to unite with the egg.

Remember that you need to be patient and optimistic. Combine all these tips ideally in order to increase the chances of having a baby girl significantly.